The Adventures of the other Pancho and LeftyCancer is a jerk. This is my story about living with it.

Jul 6th Don’t wait.

I love you.

Those 3 words can be hard to say at times, but you should not wait to say them to anyone you love or want to love.

Yesterday was just another day, I was dealing with some side effects, working, living life. Then someone posted a photo on facebook. At first I thought it was just a great photo of old friends and it made me smile, then realized something else must be happening.

I have not seen one of those people in 20 years, and on 7/4, he was killed in an accident. It made me feel terrible, that I hadn’t spoken to him in so long, and now I would never have the chance to do so again. We were not close friends, we partied together and had a lot of laughs. Just because we were not close does not mean he did not impact my life, or that I did not think about him and others from that time- I do often and with great fondness.

What I thought, what everyone thinks when something like this happens, is that life is too short, and that there are no guarantees. Here I am, fighting for my life, and in a second it could end due to some stupid accident. The person standing next to you could be gone in a moment and you are only left with your memories, and hopefully no regrets.

An hour later, the lovely Kim let me know she had to send her sweet cat Marley on his way. His body had given up, and it was time for him to go. He had spent a good part of the day with us while I had my head hennaed, and was getting love all over the place. He sat for a long time against my feet while she applied the love. He was an old scrapper, not a lap kitty, so this was not really his usual duty detail. I am honored that he chose to spend all that time with us, and wanted the attention. I know how much she loved him, and he will be missed by many.

Every person and animal we come in contact with every day of our lives is affected by our presence.  You can choose how that being remembers you, and how you can contribute to their lives. Be kind to everyone you encounter.

Love on your furry kids now- squeeze them and brush them and bury your face in their fur. If you have missed an old friend, find them and reconnect. If you need to apologize to someone for something you’ve done in the past, do it. If you need to tell someone that you love them, don’t wait. Say it often and say it clearly- “I love you.” Spend time with them and don’t let the daily grind get in the way. It really is not that hard and it is important. It can make all the difference in the world to you as well as to them, because looking back and wishing you could say it is horrible. Looking back and wishing you had more time with someone is a terrible feeling. Even if you are upset or angry- always tell them you love them.

Keep your heart open.

I love you.

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